The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman
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The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman was published in 1995. The book aims at helping people to show love to their spouses in a manner that it will be received. The author compares the showing of love with languages. Love is like a language and in order to be understood and received by the other person, it has to be spoken in a language which the other person understands. In the absence of this commonly understood language one’s partner can not receive their love nor can we receive our partner’s love.
Chapman highlights five basic love languages which are:
1.Words of Affirmation
Words of affirmation are positive complimentary words which boost the other person. Such compliments are very effective in making people feel loved and special.
One should spend quality time with their spouses. Spending quality time means giving undivided attention, doing things which the other person likes and having a quality conversation with them.
Gifts are visual and tangible symbols of love for some people. Gifts also signify that the person is physically there for their spouses when needed.
4.Acts of Service
Acts of service like cleaning the house, doing household and domestic work and other important works etc. go a long way in building trust and showing consideration for the other person.
Physical touch means being loved and is very important for some people. In times of crisis, physical touch and assurance are important than motivating words for people.
The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman is a New York Bestselling book. It is written in a simple and lucid language and has helped couples to strengthen their relationship. The book feels like an experienced and old friend passing on the advice to the readers. The author uses examples of couples in the book which many readers will relate to easily.
Though the five love language model suggested by Chapman has not been validated by empirical evidence there is no evidence against it either. The model suggested by the author can be very useful in basic issues in every couple’s life. The book is a must-read for couples looking to improve their personal bonding and strengthen their relationship.