Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
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Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself Audiobook by Melody Beattie is a self-help group focusing on helping codependent people. The author defines a codependent person as someone who lets other people’s behavior affect them and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior.
The author says that codependents are always busy solving problems of others but are unable to address their own problems in life. They are always available for others and as a result, they feel exhausted, angry and sometimes empty. A codependent person always feels the urge to control their environment and the people around them to ensure some stability and peace in their lives. They fail to realize that in the end, this need to control others is controlling them. These people lack insights and perspective about their own lives.
The author provides a list of characteristics to assess if one is codependent. The author also provides practical and effective ways to work through and eliminate the codependency. Beattie goes on to establish the importance of detachment in the book. She describes detachment as distancing one from persons and situations in life. She goes on to say that distancing and disengaging oneself from unhealthy people, problems which one cannot solve or which are not their responsibilities is important. It leads to clearing the clutter and chaos in the mind.
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself Audiobook by Melody Beattie is a well-written book addressing the problem of codependency. The author herself was suffering from codependency so her inputs come across as genuine and credible.
The author provides her real-life examples and the examples of others to put things into perspective and facilitate a better comprehension of the subject by the readers. There are activities at the end of each chapter that helps the readers to relate the content discussed in the chapter to their own lives. The key premise of the book is for the readers is to help themselves become healthy individuals. Only when they are healthy can they give themselves fully to the others. This is a recommended book for people suffering from codependency.